Archive for September, 2011
Have you ever stopped to realize what it is that you really want to do and accomplish in your life? Many of us are so busy with our demanding, active lives that we do not take the time to sit back and see if we are on track with what we really want. Moving forward and making the choice to follow our passion and dreams can be quite daunting – but have you ever thought of the alternative?
What would happen if you lived your life on someone else’s terms by not:
- Achieving the goals that you wish for
- Constantly live in a dream land and not take action to see those dreams come to fruition
- Be unfulfilled and unhappy with your life
- Have a job that you can’t bear to go to every day
- Continually walk around with a chip on your shoulder
That does not sound like a life that I would wish to live, how about you?
Life is not meant to be hard, unhappy, uneventful, unfulfilling. Life is what you make of it! Sitting back and watching your life go by and not knowing your purpose or what makes you happy will not get you the happiness and satisfaction you wish and deserve. As the saying goes, “Life is what happens when you sit there watching”. Why not make good use of your time and life? You only get ONE chance!
Most people do not take the time for change and self reflection. They use the excuse of a “hectic” day, but the underlying reason behind it is a very scary place to look and think about. Fear is what holds them back. Are you taking that time? When you push past your fear and know that you are safe and secure to go to that place of self-knowing and understanding, you will finally take your life by the horns and make the decisions that are for your benefit. Nobody else can do this for you. You are not your title, you are a person that has a lot of love to give and receive. Life is meant to be lived in a forward motion, not backward. Your past is where it is supposed to be, so learn from your past events, situations and lessons, and shift forward – one step at a time.
Are you ready to face your fears and jump with two feet in to find out who you are authentically? What is it that you really want out of life? Who are you REALLY? Make time today to think about YOU!
Each of us writes out own personal story and makes sense of things by fitting incidents and events into our unique plot. This story fills in the blanks and connects the dots to complete the picture of who and what we are. Events, images, and expericens for the patterns and storylines of that plot. We construct meanings to make sense of our life, and determine what is rememberted as a story of our identity. Reality validates and affirms those assumptions, as we live out our expectations.
“Using our beliefs and assumptions, we create our own personal story and the themes of that story. The plot defines and orents us in the present and guides us toward the future. The stories we tell about our life become our life. The stories we tell about ouor past become our past.”
That we are always right about our assumptions never comes into question, only further etches those beliefs as reality. And we are always creating our own story, so reality self-validates.
When you stop telling yourself all the things you should say and cease listening for what you ought to hear, you can begin to recognize your own story more fully. Half the struggle happens when when you become tired of your old story: the story in which you work too many hours, feel under pressure at work, and perpetually feel short on time. Or the story in which you are the caretaker of others. Or the scapegoat. Or continue to fall in love with an ideal you hope someone will become, rather than who that person is. Perhaps you don’t fully know your own story; you just realize there are aspects you don’t much like. This is a beginning. An you don’t need to know the story you should have written 5 years ago.
“Growth and change begins with personal story ownership: the recognition that we are the authors of our own stories.”
Taking ownership of a life story begin the process of inquiry. Only by accepting ownership can you proceed to assess the storylines and decide what to change.
Written by New Life Story Coaching Program Facilitator David Kreuger
Cheers:)
Tania Boutin
Transformational Coaching with Tania Boutin
